Today we’d like to introduce you to Gervase Kolmos
Gervase, we appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us today. Where does your story begin?
Eleven years ago, I had just given birth to my first (of three) children and experienced a total shock to my identity. My beliefs, lifestyle and capacity seemed to change almost overnight. I went back to work after maternity leave and cried at my desk each day wondering why it was so much harder for me than the other working mothers to leave my child each day and get back to business as usual. But in the end, I just couldn’t do it. I quit my job a few months later with no plan and a burning faith in myself that I could figure it out and anything would be better than the quality of life, work and motherhood I had just tried and hated. Shortly after, I attended a writing workshop while promising to say yes to more things that lit me up. While there, I sat beside an older woman who shared she was a life coach. She told me more about her career and my entire body felt like it was screaming “Go this way!” It was what I call a “full body yes.” Though I had never even heard of coaching as a career prior to that moment, I began a journey down the path of certification for coaching and found my true calling.
Since then, I’ve certified a couple more times, in both hypnosis and focalizing (a trauma-informed somatic healing modality), had two more children, evolved about 10,000 times and become someone wildly different than the naive young woman who thought she had it all figured it out, but whose life was really about to begin.
I now have 11 years experience under my belt helping women untangle who they actually are from who the world told them to be. I hold deep space for women in their unlearning and then their inevitable homecoming back to themselves. I teach women to create deeply satisfying lives that honor not just the culture’s ideals and expectations but their body and soul wisdom. It’s so rewarding to remind women of their own inner knowing and return them to their power to reclaim their lives from the conventional choices they stumbled into or felt pressured to make (like me feeling like a failure for not hacking it as a working mom that first time!)—everything from motherhood to how to be in relationship to what success truly looks and feels like.
Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?
It’s been a bit of two steps forward, one step back, and it’s been worthwhile. Entrepreneurship has stretched me! It highlighted any and all limiting beliefs, insecurities, childhood trauma and more. I had a gap in confidence, which I actually realized later I had been masking my entire life by being excellent at fitting in and being an outgoing likable chameleon.
The biggest struggle has been to believe in myself even when things haven’t worked out. When the clients weren’t there and there’s no income and the thing you launched that you thought people would love does not turn out to be the thing that people want to buy from you! Trusting myself and this path before I’ve had proof has been the hardest thing. To keep showing up for the baby steps and the small incremental wins felt like a struggle at first. I wanted it all to go faster. We get so many messages that we’re supposed to scale to a million dollars in x years and go viral, and honestly it’s all just gimmicky noise. But at the beginning you don’t realize how brainwashed you are to believe that’s what success looks like. Then you put your head down and just do your work and meet so many people like you doing the same and building their lives and businesses sustainably, in integrity, over time and it becomes easier and easier to just stay on course.
I’d say the other challenge for me was overcoming all my business weaknesses! I know I’m highly gifted at what I sell—healing/guiding/coaching. I am NOT a natural at admin, marketing, sales, graphic design, etc etc etc. Being an entrepreneur (unless you’re a venture-backed one), typically means becoming a jack of all trades and teaching yourself how to be good (enough) at EVERYTHING so you can grow your business, until it’s successful enough that you can begin to outsource the stuff you’re bad at and hate. It was really hard—before I hit that sweet spot—to deliver my service and also run the entire engine that is the business.
As you know, we’re big fans of you and your work. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about what you do?
I help women untangle who they actually are from who the world told them to be. I do this using advanced intuitive coaching techniques, integrated with subconscious reprogramming and somatic healing. I hope I’m known for deep inner transformation and healing and guiding women home to their body and soul wisdom. I’m really proud that I embody what I teach—designing my life around my inner knowing was a risky, unpopular move when I started over a decade ago. I’ve walked the path of inner transformation myself thousands of times. I call this the phoenix path and teach a framework to my clients that normalizes infinite cycles of metaphorical death and rebirth. When we normalize that we are always evolving and growing, it’s easier to be less attached to external outcomes, behaviors, validation, etc. When we align our cycles with nature’s seasons, self-trust becomes a natural byproduct. When we strengthen our sixth sense of inner knowing, we become less reliant on external circumstances to be “perfect” and we also can give ourselves more grace and care to be human. My own connection to my inner knowing has allowed me to have an experience of a very human life that feels empowering, at peace, controlling what I can and trusting myself to get through what I can’t. I hope I’m known for some of this. I believe if every woman knew about, trusted and consulted her body and soul wisdom, that women could change the world in innovative ways we can’t even imagine right now.
Risk taking is a topic that people have widely differing views on – we’d love to hear your thoughts.
I have an insanely high tolerance of risk. Sometimes I’m not sure that’s a good thing haha. Becoming an entrepreneur was my biggest risk, especially financially. We are a two-income household and my income has never been guaranteed. But I think I always back my risk taking with solid intuitive knowing. I never take risks with abandon, even when it looks that way on the outside. I’m always consulting my inner knowing first to feel if there is something for me in whatever step (i.e. risk) I may say yes to. Even when it doesn’t make (financial or other) sense, if my intuition is a yes, then I’ve got over a decade experience showing me that this “risk” is a solid idea that will yield something for me on the other side. Often it’s not what I was expecting, which is another mindset piece altogether! But trusting the process and myself to know my yesses from my nos makes this easier.
Pricing:
- Inner Knowing Mastermind runs April 30th — June 18th: Price: $1349 Or 3 pays of $474
- Inner Knowing Mastermind early bird pricing: $999 (EBS runs March 19- April 9th)
- First-time clients can book a one-time 90-minute Soul Shift Intensive: $444
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos
- Other: Podcast, The Modern Phoenix — available to stream anywhere you get your podcasts
